Uva dating violence
The team heard about her death over breakfast on game day that weekend. I'll never forget it.” Suriano and Kogut had recently partnered on a project, and had met up multiple times in the library in the first three weeks of the semester.
Two of Suriano’s teammates were close friends of Kogut. Her death, he says, “really was the first experience I had with relationship violence.” According to Love is Respect, a project of the National Domestic Violence Hotline that works to end dating violence among young people, 43 percent of women in college report being in a violent or abusive relationship.
He had been following me via mailing address for nine years, he wrote. I contacted the Charlottesville Police, who told me that they indeed did have jurisdiction over where my crime had happened and that there was no statute of limitations in the Commonwealth of Virginia on felony rape.
My rapist, who was represented by the same two attorneys now defending George Huguely, was charged, arrested and sentenced.
I was told by the Dean of Students that the Charlottesville Police had no jurisdiction over Phi Kappa Psi and was ordered not to call them.
The deans said that they had spoken with the young man in question and told me "he said it was consensual." He, the rapist, withdrew from the University and was thus "no longer a danger" to me. Rape and murder are also not considered violations of the University's Honor Code, established 15 years after Thomas Jefferson founded the school in 1825.
With the blood still leaking from me and my face bruised, he asked me, "Are you sure you didn't have sex with this man and you don't want to admit that you aren't a 'good girl'?
Because of the work I have done on behalf of campus survivors of crime, I know that Mr.Blaming victims for going to concerts or parties or dating a fellow student.We are, I said, collateral damage, acceptable losses in the University's now-failed PR campaign that they are one of the best, most elite schools in the United States.In 1984, when I was a freshman, I was drugged and gang-raped by a pack of three members of the Phi Kappa Psi fraternity at UVA. I remembered one of the rapes graphically -- the violence, the pain.The next day, when I awoke wrapped in a bloody sheet, thrown on a sofa, I went through the man's mail. I sat across from the then Dean of Students, Robert Canevari, and told him what had happened to me.